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Is it wrong to date more than one person at a time

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Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
 

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No, but I would advise against it.

Some of my friends got burned for doing so, and the funny thing was that they ended up going to the same eatery with different dates and met the persons whom they were dating. A fight nearly ensued.
 

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jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
 

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Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.

 
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I don't think it is a good thing to date more than one person at a time. It is not good for you and for them.
 

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Well I do really like them all. There are a few reasons why I won't commit. One can't have kids and I don't know what if I do want kids one day. One from my old city so we get that feeling of home when we hang out talking sports and stuff . Other on is kinda a yippy from Boston lol just can't pick
 

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As long as it's clear to each individual that you are openly dating without any particular commitment or promises made, why not? 
 

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Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists. 
 

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Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists.   

?????
 

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No, as long as you have not committed to one person I don't see the wrongness. However, as a matter of practical advice, I would advise against it. It will certainly make friendships and the social dynamic around you very awkward.
 

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Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists.   

?????
You named one way someone could die.  I named another.  Both are extreme cases which are hardly relevant to the OP, but who cares? 
 

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jewish voice said:
What's your view on dating lots of people.
That you shouldn't, but if you must, at least try to make sure that none of the women are associated with or related to each other in any way or form. Don't date from the same group of friends or social sphere. Date women that are fully separated and don't know each other at all. Again, not because of morality but practicality. You don't need rumors spreading or awkwardness arising.
 

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To give a level of moral accountability, yes I do believe that it is wrong to date more than one person at a time.  Christ said to love others as he loves his disciples, and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  If you have to ask this question, then you should follow what is on your conscience.  Someone you have romantic interest in deserves your sole focus.  You won't learn entirely about that person if they know you are dating more than one person.  In fact, depending on the circumstances it walks the line as being unfaithful.  Even in your pursuit for romantic interest, it should be one person at a time, because it will ultimate be with one person.  Romantic interest is an education and a connection more than it is a buffet....
 

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Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
Seems like a fun way to kick the bucket.
 

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Cyrillic said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
Seems like a fun way to kick the bucket.
More fun than eating GMO corn rats. 
 

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Sean Chaney said:
To give a level of moral accountability, yes I do believe that it is wrong to date more than one person at a time.  Christ said to love others as he loves his disciples, and do unto others as you would have them do unto you.  If you have to ask this question, then you should follow what is on your conscience.  Someone you have romantic interest in deserves your sole focus.  You won't learn entirely about that person if they know you are dating more than one person.  In fact, depending on the circumstances it walks the line as being unfaithful.  Even in your pursuit for romantic interest, it should be one person at a time, because it will ultimate be with one person.  Romantic interest is an education and a connection more than it is a buffet....
I do get what your saying.
 

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Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists.   

?????
You named one way someone could die.  I named another.  Both are extreme cases which are hardly relevant to the OP, but who cares? 
Sorry, Mor, but you are way off topic. I am not going to buy your argument.

When people date more than one person, especially when sex is involved, the jealousy factor can cause serious bodily harm or even death due to a love triangle.
 

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Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists.   

?????
You named one way someone could die.  I named another.  Both are extreme cases which are hardly relevant to the OP, but who cares? 
Sorry, Mor, but you are way off topic. I am not going to buy your argument.

When people date more than one person, especially when sex is involved, the jealousy factor can cause serious bodily harm or even death due to a love triangle.

This sounds like the voice of someone who has experienced this.

 

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DeniseDenise said:
Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists.   

?????
You named one way someone could die.  I named another.  Both are extreme cases which are hardly relevant to the OP, but who cares? 
Sorry, Mor, but you are way off topic. I am not going to buy your argument.

When people date more than one person, especially when sex is involved, the jealousy factor can cause serious bodily harm or even death due to a love triangle.

This sounds like the voice of someone who has experienced this.
No, when I was in college living in the dorm, some of my roommates lived through some harrowing experiences.
They thought that they could play the field and not get burned.
 

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Maria said:
DeniseDenise said:
Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Mor Ephrem said:
Maria said:
Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
Yes, very wrong. One can also get killed in a love triangle.
And terrorists.   

?????
You named one way someone could die.  I named another.  Both are extreme cases which are hardly relevant to the OP, but who cares? 
Sorry, Mor, but you are way off topic. I am not going to buy your argument.

When people date more than one person, especially when sex is involved, the jealousy factor can cause serious bodily harm or even death due to a love triangle.

This sounds like the voice of someone who has experienced this.
No, when I was in college living in the dorm, some of my roommates lived through some harrowing experiences.
They thought that they could play the field and not get burned.
Multiple women fought to injury and death over the same man?
 

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This is why I'm gradually coming to appreciate the Christianity no sex until marriage thing. Seems like when you fornicate, a lot of bad things potentially happen to you--like being murdered in a love triangle or getting the clap, and all that emotionally jealous stuff among other things. But perhaps the greatest motivator is being able to set an example for my children if I have any. I want to have a total honesty policy with them where I honestly tell them about my life and mistakes, and I want to be able to tell them that I only had sex with their mother when we were married so that I'm not a hypocrite when I expect them to wait until they're married.
 

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Maria said:
Sorry, Mor, but you are way off topic. I am not going to buy your argument.

When people date more than one person, especially when sex is involved, the jealousy factor can cause serious bodily harm or even death due to a love triangle.
You won't "buy my argument" because terrorists are off topic, but it's relevant to reference murder when the topic is "dating".  Yeah, that makes sense.
 

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JamesR said:
This is why I'm gradually coming to appreciate the Christianity no sex until marriage thing. Seems like when you fornicate, a lot of bad things potentially happen to you--like being murdered in a love triangle or getting the clap, and all that emotionally jealous stuff among other things. But perhaps the greatest motivator is being able to set an example for my children if I have any. I want to have a total honesty policy with them where I honestly tell them about my life and mistakes, and I want to be able to tell them that I only had sex with their mother when we were married so that I'm not a hypocrite when I expect them to wait until they're married.
I guess you've given up on the vasectomy.
 

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jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Yes, at least IMO. It's best to ask yourself whether you are fine with those three women liking other men.

However, to be honest, there were many instances in my life when I liked multiple girls all at once. Nothing bad happened though since I was too shy to confess or even talk to any of my crushes.
 

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What if you are involved in a terrorist love triangle?
 

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Fabio Leite said:
jewish voice said:
Is it wrong for me to be dating couple of women. I like each one for different reasons. If I could put all three together I'd marry that chick lol. What's your view on dating lots of people.
Depends on what you call dating.

If it is getting to know better still as a friend even if with the awareness that it may develop into a relationship, I think it's ok.

If it is already a relationship, with emotional commitment, physical contact (specially if sex is included....) then yes, it's very wrong.
IMO, this.
 

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Mor Ephrem said:
hecma925 said:
What if you are involved in a terrorist love triangle?
Genetically modified aliens.
They invented both Monsanto and the Northern Lights.  Monsters.
 

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I'm a little late to the party, but in our grandparents' day, "going steady" was quite frowned upon. 

"It is hard to fall in love with Bob on Tuesday when you know you are going out for coffee with Bill on Thursday. This lack of emotional commitment leads to less physical temptation.  Less temptation leads to less compromise. I have no idea how women are supposed to guard their hearts while in an exclusive relationship with the purpose of marriage....The benefit of traditional dating is that the lack of exclusivity reduces temptation."  http://www.thomasumstattd.com/2014/08/courtship-fundamentally-flawed/

I realize times have changed.  Much for the worse IMO.  Dating seems to imply sex these days. Wish we could push the Rewind button. 

 

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Interesting how there is no expectation that men "guard their hearts."  ::)
 

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biro said:
Interesting how there is no expectation that men "guard their hearts."  ::)
The quote right above your post referenced dating "Bob" and "Bill".  Most of us have guarded our hearts from at least that much.
 

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I started reading this thread with 'wait, someone here is dating 3 people?'

Impossible, this is OC.net


Then I realized the poster wasn't one of the normal riff raff but was instead a nice Jewish young man..

Makes so much more sense now
 

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Interesting how there is no expectation that men "guard their hearts."  Roll Eyes
Yeah, I know, not the best article, but it came to mind when I started reading this thread.  How much times have changed.  I am old enough myself to remember when our parents would be very upset if we seemed to stay exclusively with one person.  They knew rightly what it would lead to. But there was also the "boys will be boys" thing too.  So the idea was good, in a way, at least to protect the girls, but society was still fundamentally flawed. 
 

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I believe in biblical courtship.  Faith based courtship with the intent on finding a spouse.  So yes, I think in the way I see courtship dating more than one would be bad.
 

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I believe in biblical courtship.   Faith based courtship with the intent on finding a spouse.  So yes, I think in the way I see courtship dating more than one would be bad.
Which one?  Working for 14 years to get the right girl?  The courtship of Dinah in Schechem?  David and Batsheba post-Uriah?  Maybe Hosea and Gomer's courtship is a good example.
 
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