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Why won't anyone believe me when I say that I just buy those magazines for the articles?
Anyway, it wasn't that that was the problem. Some girls just don't like peanut butter I guess. *shrugs*
Anyway, it wasn't that that was the problem. Some girls just don't like peanut butter I guess. *shrugs*
No Jelly for...Peanut Butter Jelly Time?Asteriktos said:
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I always found jelly unnecessary. I guess I could give it another shot though. I mean, if some people are that picky then fine, whatever makes you happy!
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So I'm going to be in Cinci this weekend and our very own orthonorm has promised to take me out clubbing at all the hottest places and introduce me to the who's who of Ohio. I can't wait!
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Measure twice, cut once.JamesR said:
Any more advice will require you to share why you need the advice and what about...
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Is orthonorm's advice bureau still in business or will it open especially for me? Or are there any other wise sages here that can help?
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Well, what sort of preexisting relationship do you have with this girl? If she doesn't really know you (or you her), you should probably lay some groundwork before asking her out, so that you have some things in common already to talk about and it's not just coming completely out of the blue (try to put yourself in her shoes; if someone came up to you out of nowhere and asked you for a date, you'd probably be a little bit confused, right?). Other than that, yeah, there's kinda no way to preserve your shyness here. You've got to ask at some point. Shouldn't be too hard...don't Dutch people drink coffee/go to the movies/go out to dinner, etc.?
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Without knowing anything about the cultural norms of the Netherlands, it sounds like a good opportunity to me. I'd go for it. Just a simple, no-pressure "You want to grab a cup of coffee after class?" (or similar) could be the beginning of something special..or it could not, but the point is you'll never know unless you try. At the very worst she says no, and you say okay and carry on.
I'm trying to remember (hahaha, I guess I've been single too long), but I think the first date I went on with my now ex was to a place she told me makes really good desserts. Like I said, about similar interests... It was nice because even if it had gone terribly, we'd both get cake out of the deal, so there are worse ways to spend a few hours. So something like that could work, since you know her and I'm assuming know what she's interested in.
I'm trying to remember (hahaha, I guess I've been single too long), but I think the first date I went on with my now ex was to a place she told me makes really good desserts. Like I said, about similar interests...
It was nice because even if it had gone terribly, we'd both get cake out of the deal, so there are worse ways to spend a few hours. So something like that could work, since you know her and I'm assuming know what she's interested in.
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Dzheremi, I lost count on how many times you helped me, thanks man! I'll see if I can come up with a good idea or just let things go.dzheremi said:Without knowing anything about the cultural norms of the Netherlands, it sounds like a good opportunity to me. I'd go for it. Just a simple, no-pressure "You want to grab a cup of coffee after class?" (or similar) could be the beginning of something special..or it could not, but the point is you'll never know unless you try. At the very worst she says no, and you say okay and carry on.
I'm trying to remember (hahaha, I guess I've been single too long), but I think the first date I went on with my now ex was to a place she told me makes really good desserts. Like I said, about similar interests...
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Don't "just let things go"....you'll never get anywhere that way.
I love the idea of asking her out for coffee or to the local icecream shop or whatever is "in" in your locale.
It's a non-pressure meeting, and not a formal date.
Coffee shops are great, because they usually have small tables and you guys can sit across from each other and have a great time....plus, it's intimate enough where you can actually have a decent discussion.
Wishing you well!
Don't be shy!
I love the idea of asking her out for coffee or to the local icecream shop or whatever is "in" in your locale.
It's a non-pressure meeting, and not a formal date.
Coffee shops are great, because they usually have small tables and you guys can sit across from each other and have a great time....plus, it's intimate enough where you can actually have a decent discussion.
Wishing you well!
Don't be shy!
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Americanism for "to risk everything" on a single event. Comes from some variant of craps or something.Cyrillic said:
Nowadays, most people would say it means take a chance in general even if the stakes are not that high.
It would analogous to "go all in" from the past fad of No Limit Texas Hold'em.
Why not invite her to the party you are having?
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Cyrillic,
Your need for help ain't that severe. Having dated most of the continent of Europe, let me know if need something more specific to the cultural surroundings you find yourself in.
Dating in America is a bit different than "dating" in most European countries. At least IME.
Your need for help ain't that severe. Having dated most of the continent of Europe, let me know if need something more specific to the cultural surroundings you find yourself in.
Dating in America is a bit different than "dating" in most European countries. At least IME.
Where do you date over the rhine?orthonorm said:
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Gonna see the Steelers lose?Asteriktos said:
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I'm gonna meet the who's who, the Bungles don't have anyone on the list! Will be too busy for football anyway...That person said:
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You will not be too far from that person and I.Asteriktos said:
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It might as well be. Dayton is not exactly where the who's who of Ohio flock.orthonorm said:
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Have you ever seen any advertisement for a realtor named Michelle Caldwell? Because she's headmaster of my school, in Dayton.
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In Ohio?orthonorm said: