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should I or shouldn't I

should I message my crush on facebook


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jewish voice

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The other day I was on Facebook and saw that this chick that I've had a huge crush on since high school is friends with my cousin. We almost hooked up twice in the past but like a dumb butt I was to shy back in the day. Then I ran into her few years later when she was going through a divorce she wanted to hook up then but I felt I wanted to wait till everything was sure and over my morals wouldn't let me hook up with someone still married. Should I reach out and message her. I really do like this chick more than anyone of the women I'm dating or have dated. It's been over 10 years since I last saw her she said she was single on her profile.
Pls give rreasons why or why I shouldn't.
 

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The answers you seek are much larger than this question.
 

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Porter ODoran said:
The answers you seek are much larger than this question.
I'm not talking about my Faith issues here lol :p
 

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jewish voice said:
The other day I was on Facebook and saw that this chick that I've had a huge crush on since high school is friends with my cousin. We almost hooked up twice in the past but like a dumb butt I was to shy back in the day. Then I ran into her few years later when she was going through a divorce she wanted to hook up then but I felt I wanted to wait till everything was sure and over my morals wouldn't let me hook up with someone still married. Should I reach out and message her. I really do like this chick more than anyone of the women I'm dating or have dated. It's been over 10 years since I last saw her she said she was single on her profile.
Pls give rreasons why or why I shouldn't.
Yes, you absolutely. Everything you wrote says this is something you must do.

I do not like the term, Chick.
 

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Just remember that people stay the same in our memories, but change in reality. This woman might not be the same person as the one you knew 10 years ago.
 

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Sure, give it a go. :) I do think that worse can happen than a simple no--as I recently experienced myself--but if you want to be with someone (in particular or in general) then you generally have to ask or meet to achieve that, especially if you are a guy.
 

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Go for it!

You're not marrying her upon "first contact"....just getting to know her, again.

Don't pass up the chance....or you'll always wonder "what if"...
 

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Go for it.  Worst thing that can happen is you get married.
 

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jewish voice said:
The other day I was on Facebook and saw that this chick that I've had a huge crush on since high school is friends with my cousin. We almost hooked up twice in the past but like a dumb butt I was to shy back in the day. Then I ran into her few years later when she was going through a divorce she wanted to hook up then but I felt I wanted to wait till everything was sure and over my morals wouldn't let me hook up with someone still married. Should I reach out and message her. I really do like this chick more than anyone of the women I'm dating or have dated. It's been over 10 years since I last saw her she said she was single on her profile.
Pls give rreasons why or why I shouldn't.
I am a bit confused. Are you looking for a "hook up" as in the modern sense which means sex with no strings attached, or are you meaning "hook up" as in get together?  I recommend against having sex with random people. Lots of diseases and such are floating around.  If you mean getting together for a cup of joe and just chatting, then I think you should definitely go for it.
 

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vamrat said:
Go for it.  Worst thing that can happen is you get married.
Or maybe it might turn out to be the best thing that can happen :).
 

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LizaSymonenko said:
Go for it!

You're not marrying her upon "first contact"....just getting to know her, again.

Don't pass up the chance....or you'll always wonder "what if"...
 

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Talk to her in person or on the phone.

Using the inter webs will just make you creepy and get you a one-way ticket to the friend zone if you don't simply just scare her away.
 

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TheTrisagion said:
jewish voice said:
The other day I was on Facebook and saw that this chick that I've had a huge crush on since high school is friends with my cousin. We almost hooked up twice in the past but like a dumb butt I was to shy back in the day. Then I ran into her few years later when she was going through a divorce she wanted to hook up then but I felt I wanted to wait till everything was sure and over my morals wouldn't let me hook up with someone still married. Should I reach out and message her. I really do like this chick more than anyone of the women I'm dating or have dated. It's been over 10 years since I last saw her she said she was single on her profile.
Pls give rreasons why or why I shouldn't.
I am a bit confused. Are you looking for a "hook up" as in the modern sense which means sex with no strings attached, or are you meaning "hook up" as in get together?  I recommend against having sex with random people. Lots of diseases and such are floating around.  If you mean getting together for a cup of joe and just chatting, then I think you should definitely go for it.
Maybe I hang out with too many teenagers sometimes, but that's exactly what I read in the post.

I figured from the replies no one else took it that way.

I agree ... if you want to rekindle an acquaintance and see where it goes, there's nothing wrong with that.

If you were asking about the colloquial sense of the term ... that's another matter. Hopefully that's not what you meant though.
 

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I guess I'm old. I didn't think I'd have to explain hooking up means come on guys this is a religious forum. It doesn't matter anyways I wrote like 50 messages which none ever got sent  cause I can't hit the send button lol  I'm just going to hang it up ain't ever going to happen.
 

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jewish voice said:
I guess I'm old. I didn't think I'd have to explain hooking up means come on guys this is a religious forum. It doesn't matter anyways I wrote like 50 messages which none ever got sent  cause I can't hit the send button lol  I'm just going to hang it up ain't ever going to happen.
My apologies. I just hear it too frequently sometimes. :(

I certainly didn't mean to imply anything about you, and I hope you didn't take it that way.

You could always comment on something she said, shared, or posted in a picture. :)
 

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jewish voice said:
I guess I'm old. I didn't think I'd have to explain hooking up means come on guys this is a religious forum. It doesn't matter anyways I wrote like 50 messages which none ever got sent  cause I can't hit the send button lol  I'm just going to hang it up ain't ever going to happen.
lol, for us younger folk, we have only really used in heard in one way, so when you said it, I was kinda surprised, but then I figured perhaps that is not what you meant since you never struck me as the type to engage in such behavior.  :)
 
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